Dave Keehn is an associate professor and chair of the Christian Ministries program (undergraduate division) at Talbot School of Theology at 黑莓视频. Keehn has served for over 30 years in youth ministry in both small and large churches. After teaching ministry courses as an adjunct for 12 years at Talbot School of Theology and 黑莓视频, Keehn joined the faculty in the fall of 2009. His passion is to develop church leaders for future generations. Keehn鈥檚 expertise is in developing ministry programs to reach and disciple the millennial generation and their families. He has spoken at numerous conferences and serves as the teaching pastor at Cornerstone Community Church in San Clemente, Calif.
Is your church similar to a family holiday celebration? The table is set, the decorations adorn the room, all ages are gathered together鈥 but sitting at different tables. The 鈥渁dult鈥檚 table鈥 is the set with the large platters of food, and the fine wine to match the fine china. At the 鈥渒ids鈥 table鈥 are plastic plates that won鈥檛 break, no table clothes that could be stained, and no food platters 鈥 the plates of food will be served to the children by a parent in pre-approved samplings that the adult chooses. Does this sound like the difference between the adult worship vs. kids worship: one gets the better equipment and musicians while we assume the kids are content with student musicians. Adult mission trips push the limits of opportunities while kids are often ignored for true missional experiences. Even our language of 鈥渂ig church鈥 gives away the 鈥渟econd-class status鈥 with which we classify the children and youth ministries. The larger the church, the more professional the youth ministry becomes鈥 the more segregated youth are from the church. The result is tragically youth are 鈥済uests鈥 in church, and hear the message 鈥渄on鈥檛 mess it up鈥.
I have noticed the same principals that I am trying to teaching my son to be a better ballplayer are really the same fundamentals that help me coach students to be tools in God鈥檚 hands.
One of the greatest compliments I ever received was from a student who rose to speak at a 鈥渢hank you鈥 celebration when I left my first church. I had been involved in youth ministry at this church for 14 years, the last ten as the youth pastor. I had begun to recognize the benefits of developing a comprehensive mentoring program for the youth ministry and invested many hours in the lives of a few young men. All five of these men are currently serving in full time ministry today, most as youth pastors. This particular student, James, was one of those five I poured myself into during the last few years at that church. As many people stood to say nice things to my family and I, this young man silenced the room when he simply said, 鈥淵ou are my Paul and I am your Timothy!鈥 And with that he sat down. The emotion I had been trying to control burst forth at that moment and I realized I was finished. I had completed the task God had called me to at that church. What a compliment that student paid me; on my worst days, I think about that moment and smile. Mentoring may be a 鈥渂uzz-word鈥 in the business world but the practice of developing another person for specific purposes of skill development or leadership (Smith, p. 95) has been around since the beginning of civilization, evident throughout Scripture 鈥 especially in the lives of Paul and Timothy.
The church I grew up in is no more. It was small when I was a child; my youth group was 5 teenagers 鈥 2 of which was my sister and I鈥 slim pickens for potential dates. And now the church is a shell of what it was 鈥 a few older people I knew from childhood, systematically opening the doors each Sunday for the 鈥渇aithful鈥 who still come. So what happened? Sinful revolt? Apathetic attendees? No, the community鈥檚 culture changed and the church failed to reach out to the new language speakers. So a church closes its doors because it can鈥檛 speak the language of the new culture.